Domestic Violence & Abuse

What Does Their Behavior Show?​

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• Does your partner often seemed irritated or angry with you, although you never meant to upset them? Do you feel confused by their anger?

• Have you frequently felt perplexed and frustrated by your partner’s responses because you can’t get them to understand your intentions?

• Has your partner acted jealous or possessive of you?

• Have they accused you of having affairs or paying too much attention to others?

• Does your partner make you feel like you are mostly wrong and they are always right?​

Do They Deny or Minimize Their Actions?

• Has your partner denied (I never did that), minimized (It wasn’t that bad) or justified their abuse (I wouldn’t have done that if you wouldn’t have done this)?

• Have you felt like you are always walking on eggshells? Are you especially careful to avoid conflicts?

• Does your partner call you bad names and put you down?

• Do they give you angry glares or looks that scare you?

• Has your partner controlled what you do, who you see or talk to, or where you go?

• Have they deterred or discouraged you from relationships with your friends or family?

• Does your partner control the money: withhold financial information, keep you from working, take your money, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?

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Do They Tell You What You Should Feel?

• Has your partner defined your feelings, opinions, needs, or wants?

• Does your partner attempt or force you to have sex against your will?

• Has your partner manipulated or coerced you for sex?

• Does your partner tell you you’re a bad parent and/or threaten to take away or hurt your children?

• Has your partner acted like the abuse is no big deal, or like it’s all your fault, or even denied doing it?

• Have they followed you, shown up uninvited or refused to leave when asked?

• Has your partner gone through your things, mail, email, text or social media?

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Do They Hurt Property or Hurt You?

• Has your partner destroyed property (hit, kicked doors, walls, furniture, thrown items, broken things. etc.)?

• Does your partner threaten to harm, or has harmed or killed a family pet?

• Has your partner intimidated or threatened you with guns, knives or other weapons?

• Has your partner ever used a weapon to control or harm you?

• Have they intimidated you, shoved, slapped, pinched kicked, restrained, hit or choked you?

• Has your partner convinced or manipulated you to drop charges or a restraining/protective order?

• Does your partner threaten to commit suicide?

• Has your partner threatened to kill you or your family?​​